Honesty, Transparency and Acceptance
For the past couple of weeks I have been processing through an issue I had in relationship with a friend. It was really gut-wrenching for me because I had to look into things I didn't want to look into-specifically into the things that I want in a relationship. For me the top three things are: Honesty, Transparency and Love/Acceptance. I think that love and acceptance go together so I didn't give them each their own category. When I realized that these were three things that I valued I began to ask myself the following questions:1) What does it mean for me to be honest in a relationship? Am I able to be completely honest with this person or do I withhold?
2) Am I able to be transparent with this person? Can this person see through me and give me accountability in areas?
3) Can I be myself completely and have this person still love me and accept me even if I am different?
I put all of my friendships in this grid and realized so many of my relationships do fit into the things that I value (whew). It did make me realize how I need to work through issues with people as soon as they happen or right when my feelings are hurt rather than bursting out of frustration when something negative happens. I also realized (again) that issues that bug you need to be addressed right away rather than not being talked about because it just makes things more difficult later.
Overall it was a healthy processing time for me to get down to the core in another part of my life.
posted by Kat @ 10:34 PM
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