Marriage...or not
Just got home and read an email that an "old friend"(aka someone I do not like very well) is getting married. I am trying to be happy since everything that is bridal is usually a good thing...but in this case I don't think so.I have been processing through this idea of relationships for the last few weeks, upon the untimely entrance of Carter into my life. To be honest, I have been trying figure out what God is up to, since I JUST became quite content with being single and was extremely happy. I have come to a few conclusions:
1) I think God might be trying to show me that the whole marriage thing could be great...if all of the pieces fit.
2) I think that at time we try to make all of the little pieces fit, even if they don't, and in relationships...that is not such a good thing. Negotiables/Non-negotiables are things that are good to have established.
3) If you do not have all of the connections that are necessary with a person...don't commit until they are there or if they just aren't there then don't be with that person.
Life is at times short, but can be extremely drawn out and difficult if you are not with someone who fits everything that you need. There are times, when you are in your mid to late twenties where you just want to be married and begin your life with someone. I would rather take the time to make sure that I am committing myself to someone that is everything that I want, so that I do not second guess my decision three years down the line. This decisions is forever.
My dear single friends, wait until you find the perfect person. Not just some of the qualities, but all of the qualities that you want. Now that is not to say that you can give up the idea that your man should love to shop...cause c'mon now..that is just unrealistic. Wait until you find the person that you know has what you need to walk with you throughout the rest of your lives.
I would rather be single than be marrying someone that did not fit me perfectly.
posted by Kat @ 12:10 AM
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