You know you are angry when...
you are trying to ask Jesus to give you His heart in a situation and you can just spew curse words.And the only picture you can muster in your head is of Jesus throwing over tables in the temple.
I have re-told this story to my mom, dad, stepmom, my boss and Carter(all people I value), who then relayed it to Mike and Tiffany. It is not appropriate that my boundary was crossed.
Concensus was:
Action must be taken in light of reoccuring endless drama.
I don't think it is fair to view someone as being unfair(or hypocritical) if they have set healthy boundaries for what is acceptable and not acceptable behavior with one's boyfriend. I think it comes down to a trust issue...or a lack thereof.
And truly...can I have an authentic relationship with someone if that person is not being honest? Or honestly aware that their behavior is extremely unhealthy for others around them...namely me?
I have been reading up on spiritual abuse lately and realized that perhaps the way that I view forgiveness is not all together healthy. I have often thought if you truly have forgiven someone you are able to move on and allow that relationship to progress, in fact the perpetrator in the situation would encourage this. However, it is not implying that because you have forgiven, you are able to place yourself in a vunerable place again...especially after several deep woundings. It might be best to allow space, for new relationships that do not require so much painful maintenance to be on the plate.
Just some thoughts while I lay here with strep throat...
posted by Kat @ 3:17 PM
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